There are times in life where we are presented with difficult situations and/or challenging people. In these instances it is often times easier to live in the negativity instead of finding a way to reframe the experience. Daily gratitude’s are one of the ways I work to process through those moments and reframe life.
#Throwback
As a junior in college I was faced with a very challenging professor. For the longest time I dwelled in how “hard the class was” and how “impossible the teacher was”. Round and round I went down the rabbit hole until one day when venting my employer pulled me aside and gave me some advice. She told me to pick ONE thing, it did not matter how small. Pick ONE thing that you like about the person or the situation. Start small and really hone in on that particular detail. She told me the more I practiced, the more that positive feeling would consume my thoughts and wash out the negativity. So the next class period I spent most of the lecture identifying that one thing… I’ll be honest I don’t have a clue what she was teaching that day. But by the end of class I had decided that she had excellent taste in shoes. LOL. That was it; I would focus my energy on appreciating her taste in footwear. 🤷🏻 Every day I would come to class, excited to see what pair of shoes she’d be wearing — from her Burberry ankle booties to her Marc Jacobs wedges. This practice kept me interested and in a positive place, class after class. After successfully passing her classes and even learning to like the professor I realized this was the key to anything uncomfortable I might face.
Nowadays I am long past ‘particular’ professors but I still encounter similar situations. I have learned to add these reframes in to my nightly gratitude routine. Nightly gratitude’s are the practice of writing down the things you are thankful for in the 30 minutes before bed, every day. Doing so seeds positivity for the future and gives a firm direction for the universe.
If I have a challenging situation or person, I focus two to five gratitude’s specific to that instance. For example; “Today I am thankful my new job has comfortable chairs” or “Today I am thankful my boss was busy in meetings”.😂 Mixing these gratitude’s in with my already flowing list of positive items creates for a powerful change.
Give it a try and let me know what you see!
I’d love to hear more in the comments below.
xo
Carolyn
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